Why relationships break + Earthy tones

Hi fellow readers

Two thousand and eighteen is not going as planned. Lots of hiccups, misunderstandings and errors!

I've always been positive and tried to keep good vibes near me. How do I do that? 

Humans need humans; emotions nurture when they merge or clash with emotions. Therefore, keeping people with positive roots, is important for me.

Positive roots means - people, from time to time, experience bad days, sudden influx of emotions and general confusion. But, what remains put is there nature in essence. If they are positive as a person, it would reflect in everything that they do.

Today, I shall talk about these feelings, emotions, nature and personality that might lead to heartbreaks and distrust.

Also, loving the early onset of spring in Delhi. More on my outfit after the deep-dosage of relationship talks.

Five reasons why relationships break (indeliberately!)

1) Coinciding nature - We are humans: expecting is in our nature and for some, a habit. We are not used to bowing down to anybody without experience or directly being told so. Nevertheless, each person is different. Our wiring is unique, mental frequencies different and interpretation dissimilar. 

But, there can be only a limited permutations in the world that can make the entire human race unique in absolutely everything! That is why, we find that no two people are the same yet have some things in common. I'm saying coinciding and not conflicting nature because, because of these similarities and disimalrities, that we tend to coincide some parts of us.

We may want the same thing, but in a different way or different time altogether. When, even wanting the same things (or not the same thing), reaches a road to a dead-end, it is the safest place to assume that you go in different directions together, or apart. Here, 'we are good friends even after parting ways', comes into picture. It is true and very much workable!

2) When everything is not enough - There are some people who have been given everything and still nothing is enough for them. Emotional capacity, loving tenacity, good health and love; are a few must-haves for a healthy relationship. While for others, the world is upside down and still, they are happy to have 'at least' the notion of good relationship(s) around.

There is a third category of people who may have some and may want more. They are happy with what they got but a little more doesn't harm no one. This is the charasteristic of a person whose head is sorted and priorities set straight. They have always known what they want and what is (or who is) the most important thing (or person) in their life.

When the above kind of people, meet the first two kinds, they try to fix them. They think that since, these two kinds don't have their act together, maybe they need a little push? No.
They don't understand that they too, have reached where they are, after several experiences. Everyone actually learns from their own mistakes or experiences. Therefore, if not completely broken, such relationships have cracks that might or might not be filled.

3) Living in the past - whatever you do, you can't seem to get out of the circle. After all, life doesn't go forward or backward in a straight line. It is a circle that keeps on going. It doesn't have a start or an end, technically speaking.

Some people, do something to mend their past actions. They will apologize to you for something they have done in the past. They will make it up (or try to) that day and by the end of the day, mess it up, again! The next day, they wake up with a feeling of disappointment that they have brought to you and again, the cycle starts.

Living in the past, is a constant for them. They are constantly in a need to mend things and cannot LIVE in the present. Here, survival takes precedence. When a person is in a relationship with a 'mender', there is always something to look back to. Each day is a battle to start fresh or mend previous actions Sooner or later somebody gives up and some get a full stop they were waiting for.

4) Two friends - there were two friends, ego and love. Both had been living together in a beautiful apartment for 10 years now. Love needed some change, breath of fresh air and some excitment. Ego was against this idea and never gave a good response to love's request. 

One day, their house caught fire and they had no option but to jump out of the window. Love was ready to jump and looked back to see if ego was ready. Ego wasn't! It was sitting in the same chair that it used to, everyday for the last 10 years. Love yelled at it, "Hurry up, it would be too late". Ego replied, "You go if you want to. I'm not leaving."

Love pleaded, requested, demanded and sobbed but, ego didn't budge! Love had no choice but to stay with ego. How could it leave ego? It was love for 10 years!

They both died. Love died because of ego.

I don't think I have to explain this one.

5) They have options - relationships break when they have optinons. They give up too easily because they know they have friends, family, hobbies and self-respect to fall back to. They enter into relationship because of the above 4 categories - either they are (or met via) family, friends, found in hobbies or found someone with a similar set of values and respect for self or others.

Such people ignore the need for nurturing both together as they are busy nurturing themselves in the old ways. They don't feel the need for a change. If it works, it is wonderful. They have found someone who shares everything they care about. If not, it is fine. They will go back to being #1 (point above). Resorting to their own self, is not an issue for them. They don't need drastic measures to bring themselves back to reality because, they were already there. Nothing had changed for them as it is.

Needless to say, they would have loved the other person with all their heart. But it didn't work out? It's okay. They have options.

So yes, these are the reasons that I have realized. I know they are not cliched 'want different things, different personalities, etc.'. These are, from years of experiences and observation. Let me know your thoughts below.

 

Now, about the dress. I bought this in Diwali. Remember, on my Instagram stories, I asked you guys to vote between this dress and the one which I finally wore?

I am in love with the colour. With so much of festivities going around, thought I would show you a colour or two, from India :) (Most of my readers are from USA, Ukraine, Russia and then India).

One could wear it with or without leggings. I chose leggings because I know it would be an hour long shoot and I was already very cold. Paired black wedges with leopard print details in the heels.

Funny story about this shoot - My brother wanted to have his shoot as well. We wanted a different background than greenery. After half hour of discussion, we did nothing but walked for a minute to the opposite end of our society and clicked this. Hope you enjoy (LOL)

 

 

 

 

 

Which one is your favourite?

WEARING:

Suit cum dress: Fabindia, Wedges: Milanoo, Cuff right hand: Forever21, Cuff left hand: Zaful

Much love

xoxo

Akanksha

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Why I am thankful for 2017 + iphone case design

Hi people

I don't know about you people but 2017 has been a very thoughtful year for me. It was a very well planned year for me. Oh, I didn't plan for the year but vice-versa

In this post, I will get a little personal. I don't know if you can take it without judging me or not but, I will take my chances :)

But first, let's talk about the second part of this blog post. This iPhone case design is my second collaborated item with an eCommerce website. Check out the first one here (Sherlock Holmes fans would love it).

There is no second of a doubt here that there is a craze for iPhone cases in the market. If you are a brand or sell at a flea market, if your store doesn't have an iPhone case design then you are not ready for the business!

Why I am saying this is because I had literally 100 options and it was so darn hard to choose the design, material, color and so on. Now let me tell you that I had a moment with an iPhone case which didn't disappear. I kept coming back to it for the half hour I spent on Zaful.

Hands down, Zaful is the BEST site currently, for whatever shopping cravings you have. I'm not just saying that because I'm associated with them. In not a single article have I praised them (I didn't need to). But, look at the variety, speedy delivery (another product just reached within 10 days of ordering!), great customer service and quality.

This iPhone cover is made of poly-carbonate, looks super elegant, the design is still in place (been using it for 15 days now) and doesn't have sharper edges so putting it on or removing it, isn't a problem.

 

Let's quickly talk about the 5 things I am thankful for:

1) Good health - as many of you know how crazy I am about Cassy Ho's Pilates because it and she make me so happy that I cannot put into words. Not only that but also, this time I was able to fully decide for once and for all, whether or not I want to include certain food products in life or not. Bye-bye sugar! So I am pretty thankful for eliminating stuff and including Almond Milk (my love).

2) Development areas - I found out that I really need to work on my anger management issues among other things. I have not done anything about that yet but, I have started to skip getting angry at someone or something. I skip the 1st, 3rd, 5th, etc. times I want to get mad at. It's really temporary but it's working for now.

3) Love - how can Akanksha not be thankful for this. I am in a happy place right now. Putting efforts and reaping benefits; the relationship has never been more kind. Thank you!

4) Standing up - I feel like giving a separate pointer for this topic. This year made me realize that no matter who is in front of me, personally or professionally, I need to stand up for myself. Even if I have to dishonor my promise in point #2, I have to stand up for myself. It has totally worked on my side and am very much comfortable with myself for yelling at people who have wronged me.

5) Job - This deserves to be on the list. We spend more than half of our awake time, working. If we don't like our job then we might as well not get up in the morning. Until July, I was miserable. I hated my job, hated the people and was just waiting to get ANY job. My family and friends were totally against the idea of me quitting a well-paying job but, I finally got it.

Mental health + Job satisfaction > Money + Power

I am happy with my job now. Not afraid of Mondays anymore! :D

Enjoy the rest of the article.

He was just fond of the camera - not getting clicked but, the camera!

Just won't go

She was the sweetest

Sorry!

Happy us

WEARING:

Sweater: H&M, Jeggings: Zara,Watch: Aliexpress, iPhone case: Zaful

Hope you enjoyed the article :)

Let me know below what would you like to read next?

This is my LAST ARTICLE for the year. 

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year people! <3

Stay safe, stay happy.

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5 Virtues to Live a Healthy life + Blue Stripes Bow Top

Hey guys

I'm so psyched to share this post with you. I've been meaning to write something wonderful and it just occurred to me, the best thing to do for someone is to inspire them. So, here I am. Will try to inspire you :)

Also, this blue striped bow top came in the other day. Hands down, the best cotton top I've ever worn. I cannot possibly tell you, the number of head turns I got after I worn it to the mall. Not exaggerating even a bit here.

The bell sleeves of this top are just like McDreamy (watching a lot of Grey's Anatomy lately). You must be wondering how I can wear it underneath a jacket (since it's cold here in Delhi). I just try to hold the sleeves straight, till I get the jacket on. You might want to wear a slip under it since it's a little translucent.

You don't need to make a bow out of it, you just need to tie the two ends together and the bow kind of creates on its own.

Inserting the thread/cotton bow through the hole in the top, was tricky. There is just one hole in the center and one thread. I just didn't get how on earth I could create a bow with one hole. Then it just hit me; I don't! You don't need to make a bow out of it, you just need to tie the two ends together and the bow kind of creates on its own. Isn't that deep (thoughts) and great?

About the bag- Ever since I lost this brown leather bag to water, I've been in search for a pretty simple yet elegant one. It has literally been over an year and I haven't found (till now), an inexpensive brown leather bag, that meets my criterion. I clicked on the bags section of Zaful's website and there it was- brown, shiny, with its little babies - card holder, wallet, and a sling. Wished for one patiently and found a whole new world of opportunities (I'm high).

The shoulder bag has a zipper at the top so that's a relief. I just don't like bags that have a snap fastener instead of a zipper. We have things to keep- kajal, lip balm, keys, wallets, phone, HAIR CLIPS, etc. We don't want to lose any more hair clips!

I'm ever so grateful to Zaful, for having such an amazing collection and discounts all the time.

Without further ado, here are the 5 best virtues according to me, to live a healthy life:

1) Kindness: Cannot say this enough. No one can. If you end up helping someone or not, being kind will only make you feel lighter. Try it just once a day on a full stomach. Show me the reports after 10 days.

2) Patience: I lack this big time but the few times that I've been patient before I make a big decision, I've thanked the time and myself for it. Good things take time and that's why I have this tattoo after it.

3) Perseverance: I lack in this area too. The first time, I actually heard someone say this word was (heard a lot of times before but didn't pay attention until now) when Chuck Bass from Gossip Girl was giving a toast at his father's wedding. Remember, anyone? When you have an urge to give up or you are afraid, it means you are dealing with something important. Otherwise you be having a bad feeling instead.

4) Love: I have come to realize that my sole purpose in life is to love things and people. I love each day, I look forward to things I make-up so that I am happy about that particular day, I even love someone to (x times + 1) because I am a hopeless person who doesn't leave hoping for more love. But, it has always made me happy. Living each day, loving each day, loving to take care of myself and people I love; has always made me happy. So it is one of the most important virtues to be doing while you live.

5) Honesty: If you are not honest with yourself first, why are even reading this point? Please skip to the pictures below if you hesitate at this point. Live for your integrity, respect, and principles, before anything else. Be true to yourself.

 

WEARING:

Top: Zaful here, Handbag: Zaful here, Pants: Forever21, Boots: Rosewholesale, Watch: Aliexpress

Do you agree with my 5 virtues for a healthy life? No? Comment below 

Hopefully my next post would be that post which I was talking about on one of my Instagram posts.

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Blue Stripes Dress: Zaful

Hello people

I'm back with a sunny post for you guys. Right before taking these pictures, my mom brought this pretty sunflower home. I was like, let's use it as a prop and brighten up my pictures :)

I had many apprehensions before wearing this dress. My parents told me, it looks like a teen's dress while my brother said, I look like the kid in the dress! I was so in love with the dress that I decided to wear it anyway. This blue stripes cotton dress from Zaful was so pretty and I requested them to send it as early as possible. When it arrived, first of all, it was exactly as it was in the pictures. Second of all, the cute cotton belt was really giving me ideas right and left on ways to tie it.

 Agreed, I looked a bit younger than I already look for my age. But, once I tied the belt at the back; things changed. Take a look at the 6th picture. Would wear it again for a winter look. With white leggings and an overcoat? How you would wear it? Let me know in the comments below.

 

 

 

WEARING:

Dress: Zaful, Pumps: Chic Factor, Necklace: Chicnova

Here are 5 tips on wearing cotton dresses:

1) At the beach- The perfect place to wear them if you don't plan to go near the water with the dress on! Wear it with those cute platform flip-flops, a loud cotton tote-bag (picture below- an old one), and sunglasses/hat. If your dress is solid colored then you can also tie a colorful scarf around.

2) Party- Yes! Break the rules and live a little. If you feel extremely comfortable in cotton dresses (like me? Please drop me a mail & Hi5) then by all means go ahead and wear them. But be a little dramatic and wear a classic burgundy, brown, and the likes, lip shade. If it's a little cooler outside then it's a perfect way to add a leather jacket on it. If not, let your hair down, do some awesome make-up, carry a nice hot colored clutch and rock it.

3) 80s Fashion- As I said above, I would wear it with white leggings and throw in a ribbon over my head and turn it into a bow. I'd probably want to wear soft curls on my hair. If you're feeling a little more Yale (read Blair- Gossip Girl) then a white lace jacket and some pearls would look really neat.

4) Fusion- You know what would be really innovative? Wearing a crop top or a nice top over your cotton dress. Some nice sneakers and a backpack (optional), you're so owning this look.

5) Prop it- If you have a belt like mine then I already told you two ways to wear it. There's one more way to do it which I've never tried but would love to see if anyone has. If there's any chance to hide those belts by folding and pinning it, do that. Add another belt, maybe a metallic one. You can also leave the belt as is and wear a grey cardigan over it.
If belt is not the issue with your dress then I strongly recommend wearing a great belt and experimenting with its placement- empire, mid or low. I love wearing bandanas and still wear them (sometimes for work).

I hope you enjoyed the post. Check out my previous post if you missed reading my Mumbai rants and another cotton dress I wore. This time it was sequined, printed and maxi!

P.S. Next time, a special post would come. If everything is ready, then watch out for my next post :)

Until next time

xoxo

Akanksha

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