April 29, 2013

To your Heart's Desire

Hello People :)

Today I'd be writing what I love to write about :D Love and Relationships. So leave what you are doing cos I'm sure after reading this, you'll think about what needs to be thought. Confused? Don't be. Read along :)

P.S. This is not my Story! These are pure thoughts. So anyone who is in disapproval, I respect you :)

Any relationship requires constant effort to be put in, day in and day out. You have to express your love in a million ways so that the other person knows that YOU ARE THERE for them. They shouldn't feel neglected and you shouldn't have to feel guilty of not doing so. If you are, then it's better to make amends right now! They say, It's Never too Late but it would be too late if you lose that person.

What people fail to realize is that when they are there, in the present, loving each other, caring for each other and making it a point to go out of their comfort zone; then that is it! You are in the best phase that life could possibly give you. Cherish it, you are lucky that you have someone who will go to any lengths to make you happy even if they are having a hard time.

Then there are those who continue to make compromises and sacrifices, putting their best and receiving nothing in return. The other person might be all the good that they could be but nothing comes out from them; then you wonder whether you made the right choice or not. You realize that nothing good can come out of this relationship and so you make a decision to end it for your sake. Then by the sheer chance of luck or miracle something happens and the person changes and realizes that you are important. What do you do? Do you give them a chance or let it go?

People say it is better to forgive and forget than repent later. My next question is, how does one know when to stop being the better person and leave everything for the betterment of one's future. It is okay to make mistakes but it is not okay to repeat them. Mistakes are our teachers: if we don't learn from them, we are insulting our past, present and future. The Answer: Forgive until you feel that your self esteem is intact, until you feel you are respected and taken seriously! Don't carry the devil on your back if you can't enjoy the dance!

I want to ask everyone here, if you are given two situations~ One in which there is perennial love but no happiness and second, in which there is umpteen amount of happiness but no Love. Which one would you choose? I know most of you might be thinking, what the hell I'm talking about (LOL) but lemme explain. First one is when you know you love them but are not happy because of things they do or don't do. Second is one where you love being with them, you are happy and safe with them but you don't love them in the obvious way.
The reason why I'm focusing on just the above ones is because I want to know what people would choose~ Love or Happiness (if these are the only options available)

Everyone wants love even if we don't express it. Subconsciously, in our mind, we need approval of that special someone whom we are incomplete without. Incomplete in the sense of fullness of life's goals, in the sense of our drawbacks and our dreams. One cannot prosper without happiness and I would laugh at their face (sorry) if they say otherwise! You are happy with yourself and someone makes you happy are two different things. So, next time you tell anyone that you are not happy with them, don't question yourself; whether it's you or them. The answer is always the latter!

You cannot make anyone happy if you are not happy from the inside. So first be happy and content with yourself, know what you want in life and from a relationship, know yourself inside out and then only step into any relationship. You can fall in love without your wish but it's upto you whether you want to be in a relationship or not. It is imperative for someone to be officially tagged 'a couple' for many reasons and so it's completely your choice whether you want to be in one or not. Don't make a fool of yourself and of others by thinking that the relationship will run its course and you wouldn't have to worry a bit! Constant love, care, understanding, communication, trust and the willingness to keep it going is what builds a healthy relationship.
If you have one, Nurture it :)

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  1. i was in a relationship where there was love, hell lot of it, but i was not happy.. somehow our frequencies dint match ..my bf wasnt able 2 understand me at all.. nd trying continously 4 months fighting almost every day, i felt tha i m being sapped out f all my energy.. m not living my own life.. so i tuk a step bk nd broke up.. I feel happiness if more imp... if u r in a relationship where u r happy bt dnt love d other person, fret not u ll gradually fall in love wid dt person bcz dt person makes u happy .. how cn u not love him or her (d case wid many happy arranged marriages).. luckily m in a relationship where there is both love and happiness.. m blessed! :)

    1. woww.. exactly! I thought so too! Happiness is more important.. you won't be able to stay unhappy throughout your life but you can live without that kind of love (if the situation is like that).. you're so lucky Shilpi! Just hold on to it.. never let it go! and you did the right thing stepping back.. No point in dragging it if after years he couldn't understand what makes you happy!
      God Bless you both :)

    2. thankyou dear.. today its our mini anniversary (i knw its lame :P) and we are very near 2 completing 4 years on 29th june :) *blush *

    3. OMG!!!! woww.. it is NOT LAME at all!!! small reasons to celebrate are the only reasons good enough to keep us going :)
      Happy Anniversary!! Congratulations <3

  2. I loved this post
    loved the answer of the woman also in that pic
    but if you ask me to choose one option out of the given two ,i will say no to both because I want both love and happiness,keep writing such deep posts
    I loved reading every single word of this post

    1. Rightly said vandana :) and thank you so so much.. it means a lot.. you guys are my inspiration.. it is because of those feedbacks that I decided to start writing again <3

    2. Pleasure is ol mine,I can understand very well that for writers,the real inspiration are their readers :)

  3. Lovely post dear.. luckily for me I'm with some1 who makes me happy each second which makes me fall more in love with him every second! So in a way happiness does precede love by a second I would say..

    1. Woww.. that is so great Shreeja!!! and right.. happiness precedes love <3 We rock! :)
      May God Bless you both! :)

  4. Hi dear
    Great post, super cute!!
    I love love haha

  5. Awesome post! Very well written. :)
    Keep it up !!

  6. Loved this post Akanksha... Agree to every word you say :-)

  7. amazing pics!




  8. This has been one of my favourite posts till date! Beautiful thoughts and so well written Akanksha. Every one deserves someone who loves them unconditionally...though this does hold some giving and some taking...but like you said we need to nurture what we have! Once again, great job :)

  9. This was really sweet!!! I'm trying to beef up my Facebook so I've like you page (Marla Brum) and would love if you could like mine back!!

    xx Marla


  10. So cute post! Thanks for sharing it with us!
    Stella from a A Shiny Place

  11. :) first of all I can't miss mentioning how wonderful this article is! loved reading every bit of it and honestly I agree to the points u covered here :) .....
    well, coming to my opinion on the question u asked, I would say it would be an ideal situation where one can easily opt out of LOVE and choose HAPPINESS~ that decision is a tough one! ..... No relationship is perfect & we all need to constantly work upon building it, But then again, u can't go on in a relationship tht offers u constant unhappiness, u knw where to draw the line!..... if a relationship is beyond repair it's better to opt out than to ruin ur life hoping for it to be wht u dream it to be .....
    'Happiness' can come in many forms like maybe a Good friend's company, that won't offer u the kind of 'Love' u miss, but still coping with heartbreak is far better in a happy company..... and it's such a wise choice to embrace that 'happiness' and come out of a sad relationship .....

    1. Thank you sooooooo much <3 you are absolutely right! no relationship is perfect.. we hv to make it work till the end :) n no point in sulking in a bad one! <3

  12. i love this post..!
    it is so imp to be happy urself..only then can u bring peace to any realtionship.
    Good job girl.

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  13. Amazing post! So inspiring:)


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  15. Some great tips!

    Sita xx

  16. Lovely post, beautiful picts!
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  17. I think I would choose happiness if I ever came to that point. Plus totally agree with being happy with yourself first. I have been learning that the hard way...but staying happy inside makes everything else so much better :)

    Great post !

    Swati @ The Creative Bent

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  19. Hi sweety, this was so beautifully inspiring, a great read and made me think a lot about the degrees of love there is. Hope you are well. Happy Friday Doll!

  20. Very well said. Every word is true. You good at thoughts. I like ur article. Read my blog too and my follow me. Recently I'm writing a love story.

  21. What a wonderful post. Mostly true. But how about unrequited love? I know it is a tough choice between love and happiness. I guess we got to work hard for both.

    1. We all know than in those kinda love there are mostly heart-breaks. You are giving in (maybe without expectations obviously) but we all are humans and we all need someone :)


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