What
happens after a heart-break? The stages and the counter-arguments:-
1)
The Blame Game- Both of you are upset. You blame each other for your own
sufferings. That you are unable to identify yourself. You were a different
person when you entered this relationship and now you are this person who is exhausted
of giving and expecting, of listening and relenting.
The
Argument- Who asked you to change? If you answer, Time changes things I’d give you a piece of my mind! When you were
a child, did you blame your parents for making the person you are at that
moment? No, right? Then how can an adult, who is matured in all forms, who in
his own free-will enters into a relationship with someone compatible (or so it
seems) make such an argument? People change with experiences and the
self-consuming expectations. Just stop being at the extreme end and start
living the present and you’ll see if it is really a change or that you have
grown up!
2)
Rising to the Occasion- After a few weeks we realize, “I don’t need a guy/girl to make me happy” and you couldn’t be more
wrong. You do! You heard me right. Shakespeare
didn’t write Romeo’s Prodigy and Self
Love. If there wasn’t a Juliet, there
won’t be love. More on that later but this is the stage where you are rising
from the ashes (pardon the drama), you realize that no one can make you feel
less of yourself without your permission. What about ‘making you feel more
about yourself’. How can we forget that the very person who hurt you, made you
happy too!
The Argument- There
are various kinds of happiness in the world. One is where you are content with
your life, the job; one is where you are happy with yourself, the inner peace
and there’s also one that is most synonymous with Love- relationships. Yes,
Love gives us happiness; the one where the ‘Love Hormones’ play a significant
role in giving those butterflies in the first few months. Then your
compatibility, encouragement, honesty and trust pave road to blessed future
events. Like every coin has two sides, getting over someone also teaches you
ample of things about yourself.
3)
Minor Distractions- This Is the best time, I’d say! It’s that time when you’re
figuring out ways to distract yourself. It can be anything from indulging in
bubble bath (for how long?) to chocolate syrup savouries (what about calories?)
or a shopping spree (I’ve nothing to wear!). In the brackets you’d see your devil
talking ;) Everyone has one!
So
here’s my argument- Why choose? Why not try everything in minimal amount and
see what works best for you. You can turn into this fitness finesse girl or connoisseur
of eclectic deserts. Whatever makes you happy, for once, don’t let the other
half speak! ;) Oh! And there’s a mid-way too!!!
4)
Suitable Match- Your heart is after all, a heart darling! It doesn’t have much
to do, except look for its other half. We might get stuck in between being
single vs committed but it all comes to this- If you were in a relationship or
even came close to it, your heart won’t give up!
Counter
argument- It doesn’t have to! Don’t push yourself as to why are you getting this
lonely feeling all over again, you’re a strong independent woman. Ofcourse you
are! Why can’t you be the same while getting routinely fixed with the Love
Doctor? (Okay Bad one!) Find a man who makes you feel wanted even in the bad
ass hair days and pays the bill even if you’re filthy rich. It’s not about
negotiations, it’s about gestures!
Play along and Get over it soon
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Keep it Simple
xoxo
Akanksha
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